It’s difficult. I am quickly evolving into a person with many tasks, with no personal identity. My life is now measured by my “success” in raising le baby and taking care of le husband.
I still take freelance jobs sometimes, and even though sometimes it feels like I am slowly killing myself this way, it’s still a good way to remind me of what I am good at.
You see, a lot of people will judge a new mother. And no matter how hard we try to convince ourselves that we’ve tried our best, there is always that time when we are weak and the pressure is strong.
So. If you are on your way to motherhood, be warned. Whatever choice you make, people will condemn you. People will talk. They will compare, and they will dissect all your actions.
Be brave, and be kind. At the very least, try to keep the judgements to yourself. Good luck.